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 Mas, se o objetivo é estabelecer algum canal de comuni-
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piorar a situação. Eles, provavelmente, se distanciarão ainda mais, 
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 Se o objetivo é abrir os canais de comunicação com seu 
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mais tarde, saia para dar uma arejada...
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xão. Seja franco e honesto, mas não raivoso. Expresse preo-
cupações e mágoa, se for o caso. Transmita seus sentimentos 
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sobre isso, pois eu gostaria muito de saber sua opinião\u201d).
Não humilhe, não rotule, não use sarcasmo
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Cartilha para pais de adolescentes
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ponto de vista ou diminuam seu orgulho próprio. Esse tipo de 
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 Comentários do tipo \u201csó podia ser você mesmo\u201d ou \u201cvocê 
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devem ser evitados. Esse tipo de rotulação provoca pouca vontade 
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vou conseguir mesmo.\u201d).
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dem ferir, de modo profundo, a auto-estima dos adolescentes.
Estabeleça limites e expresse suas razões
 Comentários vagos do tipo \u201cvocê vai se ver comigo, caso 
faça isso de novo\u201d podem gerar um certo receio, mas tendem a 
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e expresse as razões (de curto prazo) de seus valores (\u201ceu não 
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você chegar nos seus 50 anos\u201d).
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Horário
 Do ponto de vista de adulto, dez horas da manhã de do-
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de vista do adolescente. Em geral, essa faixa etária é marcada 
por uma mudança de ritmo de sono, com tendência a adorme-
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conversar, sem muita formalidade. Mas também não adie de-
mais, esperando a situação \u201cideal\u201d. Negocie horário, pergunte 
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conversar depois da meia-noite\u201d), mas usar o bom-senso para 
estabelecer condições razoáveis para os dois.
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privacidade para conversar e não sejam interrompidos.
Local
 Sentar no sofá e comunicar-se \u201colho no olho\u201d é como, ge-
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envolve coisas sérias e sentimentos.
 Não raro, no entanto, as conversas são muito mais francas 
e produtivas se usarmos locais e situações alternativos. Sair para 
dar uma caminhada, conversar num passeio ou durante um pro-
grama de televisão, pode, eventualmente, funcionar melhor. Para 
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para o adolescente pode ser uma maneira de deixá-lo mais à von-
tade, de dar espaço para ele(a) evitar o olhar, para poder expres-
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Além disso, as interações pessoais nas novas gerações têm sido 
cada vez mais combinadas com algo a mais (música alta, internet, 
vídeo). Ficar sentado no sofá parece ser coisa \u201cdo tempo antigo\u201d. 
Além disso, sentar com ele numa sala silenciosa, olhando-o seria-
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O conteúdo de 
nossas ações e conversas
As más companhias
 Durante a adolescência, a família passa a ser uma refe-
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vai colocar a perder todos esses anos de educação moral sólida, 
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vocês esperam \u201cos meninos\u201d chegarem da festa).
 É humano e compreensível sentir tentação de simples-
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esse gesto deve ser reservado realmente para situações extre-
mas, e muito bem pensado, pois pode ter um efeito diferente do 
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conduta inapropriada. Neste caso, a chamada \u201cmá companhia\u201d 
passa ser muito mais poderosa e sedutora.
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 Uma outra alternativa é expressar, claramente, seu desa-
grado com a amizade, oferecer exemplos concretos erecentes 
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atitudes você não concorda. Evitar ser irônico e demonstrar con-
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pode ajudar muito.
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um determinado modo de vestir, o cabelo pintado de verde, o 
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çar ou jantar na sua casa, e tentar vê-la com um olhar menos crí-
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do seu corpo uma vitrina de sua transição para o mundo adulto. 
Alarmismo
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