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When Ambiguous Loss Becomes Ambiguous Grief: Clinical Work with Bereaved Dementia Caregivers Abigail Nathanson and Madeline Rogers The experience of caring for someone with dementia can be heartbreaking. The losses inherent to caregiving itself can be difficult to reconcile after the death of a person with dementia, causing challenges in the bereavement stage. Although there is often significant social support to help people process the death of someone close to them, clinicians can struggle to help bereaved dementia caregivers integrate their ambiguous losses from caregiving, such as loss of roles, functions, and relationships, into a postdeath bereavement process. Many socioeconomic, personality, and family functioning factors impact an individual caregiver’s experience, and there are more global influences from the nature of dementia caregiving itself that must be understood to best support a caregiver. Using the lens of the dementia grief model and examples from a case study, this article seeks to illustrate the dynamics inherent in integrating ambiguous losses following the death of a person from dementia, and it proposes clinical goals for working effectively with this population. KEY WORDS: ambiguous loss; bereavement; caregiving; dementia; grief T he experience of caring for someone with dementia, of slowly “watching the deterioration and disintegration” of some- one once familiar (Dupuis, 2002), can be heartbreak- ing. The preceding quote represents the experience of one caregiver. However, it is often the reality for the 16.1 million people who provide unpaid care to the 5.7 million people living with dementia in the United States today (Alzheimer’s Association, 2018). Maya is one such caregiver. She is a Black, Ca- ribbean American, cisgender middle-age woman, and one of several siblings. Her mother had Alz- heimer’s disease. Maya was the primary informal caregiver for her mother for more than a decade, during which much of her own professional and interpersonal development was put on hold. Sev- eral months after the death of her mother, Maya sought out a bereavement group, saying she did not feel she was grieving “correctly”; she was not thinking of her mother or crying as frequently as she had anticipated she would, and she felt like this meant something was wrong with her. Just as she did in her caregiving role and now in a new role as a bereaved adult child, Maya had identified a prob- lem and tried to find a way to solve it. Because dementia is considered a terminal ill- ness, “hundreds of thousands of dementia care- givers start the bereavement process every year” (Supiano, Haynes, & Pond, 2017, p. 155). During the progression of a neurodegenerative dementia such as Alzheimer’s disease, both the person with the illness and the caregiver experience losses on multiple levels and usually over a prolonged pe- riod. Notably, according to Ross and Dagley (2009), caregiving for people with dementia results in nearly double the amount of losses as caregiv- ing for those with a disease other than dementia. Many losses occur during the progression of the disease, even before the death of the person. So, when does the grieving of losses by caregivers actually begin in dementia? Even though death is usually a clear, recognized concrete loss, the losses of roles, connections, func- tions, and relationships can cause hidden pain and distress, too. These losses are called “ambiguous” because they are not always recognized or named, and, thus, they are not always allowed to progress through a natural grief cycle toward integration (Boss, 2010; Hovland, 2018). For many in the care- giving dyad, suffering is so intense that death of the doi: 10.1093/hsw/hlaa026 VC 2020 National Association of Social Workers 1 D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 person with dementia can bring feelings of relief (Frank, 2008; Waldrop, 2007), which is often unex- pected and yet another source of distress for the caregiver. The experience of caregiving is taxing for many and is filled with losses for most (Hovland, 2018), yet some caregivers turn the responsibility inward and integrate the duties into their sense of self. Whether this experience is culturally driven or based on the personality makeup of an individual, some caregivers seem to thrive under the pressure and emerge with increased self-esteem, healed childhood traumas, and a renewed sense of pur- pose in life. The meanings of the multiple losses can become an opportunity to expand caregiving into being considered a desired identity rather than a source of loss. For many such caregivers, the biggest loss comes after death: the loss of the caregiving role. What happens when, instead of relief, death yields an identity crisis for the former caregiver? This article proposes clinical goals for working with bereaved caregivers as they integrate ambigu- ous losses following the death of a person with dementia. It uses a case example to illustrate the multiple social, psychological, and emotional factors that affect successful grief integration. BEREAVEMENT OF THE DEMENTIA CAREGIVER Why Does Ambiguity Matter? The nature of the ambiguous losses from dementia grief differs from a more typical grief process. To work successfully with the bereavement of a de- mentia caregiver, it is important to first understand how these processes are different. Typical grief can be understood as progressing from a premorbid state to a loss and then an adaptation to that loss. The adaptation often requires the support of nor- mative social rituals to assist in adaptive integration to a postloss stage (Waldrop, 2007) and is consid- ered a normal part of the human experience. The grieving process of a dementia caregiver, however, is shaped by their experience of the person with dementia’s struggle with neurodegeneration over time (Frank, 2008; Hovland, 2018). There are multiple losses within an experience of decline. A caregiver’s grief in a dementia process typically con- sists of a premorbid state, followed by the onset of dementia that precipitates multiple, unnamed am- biguous losses that, in turn, can lead to difficulties in grief adaptation (van Wijngaarden, van der Wed- den, Henning, & Komen, 2018). In a typical grieving process, there is time following a loss to focus on integrating it into a postmorbid stage. But with the progression of de- mentia, the postmorbid stage of one loss becomes the premorbid stage for the next, often in rapid and overlapping succession. The time normally spent acknowledging and adapting to one loss now must be spent preparing for or experiencing the next. Each loss requires the caregiver to adapt to an ever-changing “new normal.” To compli- cate matters, the losses are not linear: One day, the person with dementia may not recognize the care- giver, but the next day, they might. The caregiver is left not knowing what has been lost or when to start grieving it. “Difficulty accommodating to these changes and the eventual death of the care recipient contributes to risk of ineffective post-death integra- tion of grief” (Supiano et al., 2017, p. 156). Ambig- uous losses easily become ambiguous grief. Maya struggled with knowing how to grieve correctly be- cause her grief was as unclear as her losses had been. Best practices for work with dementia caregivers must consider how the experience of ambiguous losses affects their experience of grief integration af- ter a death (Frank, 2008; Hovland, 2018). It is also important to consider how psychological and social forces affect an individual’s experience with demen- tia grief integration. The Dementia Grief Model Blandin and Pepin (2017) developed the dementia grief model (DGM), which consists of three stages: separation, liminality, and reemergence. It buildson the theories of ambiguous loss to present a frame- work for understanding how dementia caregivers cope with loss. It speaks to their specific difficulties within the process of bereavement integration. This model illustrates how “the dementia grief process is vulnerable to being stalled through a failure of the dynamic mechanisms: acknowledging loss, tol- erating difficult feelings, and adapting to the new life circumstances or reality of the loss” (Blandin & Pepin, 2017, p. 72). Within the stage of separation, Blandin and Pepin (2017) described how “each loss invites a state of separation from the person with dementia, from the life one has lived in the past, and from an anticipated future” (p. 73). Maya experienced these separations during and after the decade spent being her mother’s informal caregiver. Although her mother’s death was a concrete loss, there were 2 Health & Social Work D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 numerous ambiguous losses along her mother’s disease trajectory: her mother’s ability to speak, recognize Maya, eat, and move independently. Each of these losses invited further departure from Maya’s concept of whom she knew her mother to be. In addition, Maya put personal relationships on hold while caregiving; her anticipated future of having a partner and a family was suspended. She became disconnected from her career aspirations in the corporate world. She described a disillusion- ment in which she no longer identified with her professional goals and instead focused on working with older adults as a professional health coach. Naturally, the eventual death of her mother also invited a state of separation in which, among other losses, Maya’s identity of “caregiver” was lost. Within the grief process of each loss there is liminality. Blandin and Pepin (2017) explain the stage of liminality as “being in-between a previous situation and an emerging situation” (p. 73). This process is characterized by ambiguity and unpre- dictability; a caregiver is both coming from where they were and figuring out where they are going next. The losses, sacrifices, compromises, and accom- modations necessary for dementia caregiving now must be readjusted as caregivers learn to meet their own needs again (Hovland, 2018; Waldrop, 2007). Tolerating the loss of someone is also tolerating the loss of who you were to them; for some caregivers, finding a way to hold on to that identity is a way of coping with the uncertainty of the identity transition. Maya was thrust into a liminal state upon the death of her mother. She came to the bereavement group in the midst of a career overhaul, having left her corporate position to work with older adults. She was, in essence, looking to be a professional caregiver. Maya’s diligent efforts to maintain the identity she had built over a decade could be inter- preted as integrating and tolerating the liminality of the meaning and identity she had constructed in the wake of her mother’s death. Within the stage of reemergence, Blandin and Pepin (2017) explained that “the loss has been rec- ognized, accepted, and the new reality has been in- corporated into daily life” (p. 74). Maya originally struggled with reemergence, feeling that because she was not “grieving correctly,” she could not successfully move into the next phase of her life. Maya’s reemergence was facilitated by the be- reavement group she attended; she became able to reframe and accept the losses and changes in her life (Dupuis, 2002). It became less about “grieving correctly” and more about how she would incor- porate her experience of caregiving into this next stage of her life. The Dynamic Experiences of Caregiving in Bereavement Understanding the dynamics of the ambiguous losses experienced during caregiving inform the spe- cific psychological processes that dementia care- givers endure in their bereavement. As Boss (2010) described, although traditional grief work has a focus of adapting to a complete absence, losses associated with dementia are more complex; thus, in bereave- ment, processing these losses can be more complex, too. A person with dementia is physically present but understood to be at least somewhat psychologically absent. Specifically, when the person with demen- tia is rendered emotionally absent by the illness progression, often, the “caregiver, feeling ineffec- tive, becomes less mastery-oriented, and often depressed” (Cutillo-Schmitter, 1996, p. 35). The disconnect between caregiver and the person with dementia can result in relational disruption in which the caregiver is still interacting with part of the person, while part is gone. Successfully adapt- ing to the parts that are gone is made difficult by the parts still present (Rolland, 2017). When caregivers have to redefine their own sense of self and relationship to the person with dementia, this process can create instability and disconnect. In some caregivers, the dynamic mecha- nism that seeks stability in chaos can turn inward. It is an attempt to make the incomprehensible com- prehensible, to internalize a locus of control in a sit- uation that can feel out of control. Ambiguity in caregiving can be replaced by a certainty of purpose; when caregiving ambiguity ends at death, the ambi- guity itself does not end, it merely shifts form. Ulti- mately, the interaction of ambiguity and continuous loss inherent in dementia yields worse mental health outcomes for dementia caregivers, compared with other caregivers. These can include heightened risk for depression, low self-esteem, social isolation, anx- iety, increased anger, and guilt (Arruda & Paun, 2017). Additional factors contribute to the psychological experience of dementia caregivers during caregiving and bereavement including lack of communication NATHANSON AND ROGERS / When Ambiguous Loss Becomes Ambiguous Grief 3 D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 from the person with dementia in their final days, length of illness, likelihood of skilled-nursing facility placement, and the unlikelihood of hospice use (Arruda & Paun, 2017). Each of these scenarios pre- cipitates its own set of circumstances to which the caregiver must adapt. Given these challenges, care- givers with pre-loss grief and low preparedness re- quire additional support (Nielsen, Neergaard, Jensen, Bro, & Guldin, 2016). Social Intersectionality: Race, Culture, Gender, and Family Constructs As noted previously, Maya is a Black woman and cisgender caregiver who is one of several siblings. Each of these characteristics contributes to her ex- perience as a dementia caregiver and bereaved adult child. Maya was not the only available care- giver; her siblings could have taken on this respon- sibility. However, Maya was the daughter living nearest her mother. And although several of her siblings lived nearby, our health care system usually demands one person assume most caregiving re- sponsibility. The primary caregiver is generally fe- male (Rolland, 2017). Maya’s brother lived nearby and although her mother lived in his home, he was less involved in the hands-on caregiving. Instead, the revolving door of a visiting nurse service and Maya, traveling between her own home and that of her brother, took on the mantle of care. This ar- rangement was culturally congruent to Maya, who felt her role and range of acceptable emotional responses was well defined within her family’s Afro-Caribbean community. Maya’s race also informs her perception and ex- perience of the caregiver role. Fulfillment charac- terized this; caregiving enabled her to “pay back” her mother for raising her and her siblings. Care- givers like Maya are morelikely to provide a greater number of care hours and to engage in more demanding caregiving tasks, while simulta- neously being more likely to find caregiving to be rewarding (Wells et al., 2016). This approach to caregiving means that Black women who are care- givers are less likely to have their stressors recog- nized and aided; they perceive their experience as normal and find it is gratifying. Consequently, in their bereavement, Black caregivers are less likely to view death as a relief and more likely to report a great perception of loss (Owen, Goode, & Haley, 2001). They are less likely to be prepared for the death of the person with dementia, increasing risk for depression and anxiety and symptoms of com- plicated grief after death (Hebert, Dang, & Schulz, 2006). The family’s structure and functioning further contributes to how caregiving is understood. If a family is disjointed in its emotional connectedness, members are more likely to minimize illness, and consequently, the role of caregiving. By contrast, if the family has particularly strong emotional ties, they are more likely to be “exclusively attentive to the ill member, and neglecting self and others’ needs within the family” (Cutillo-Schmitter, 1996, pp. 33–34). Maya’s family was defined as her mother; she raised Maya and her siblings as a single mother with a hands-on parenting style, and Maya felt a strong emotional tie to her. Maya’s mother had been a consistent, depend- able presence in her life, in stark contrast to the in- consistent presence of her father during Maya’s childhood. The perceived partial abandonment of her father in comparison with her ever-present mother formed the construct of traits Maya valued in self and others. The importance of the loyal caregiver role was internalized, and Maya devel- oped a strong sense of self-efficacy. She perceived that her goals were achievable as long as she put in the necessary work. She did not, however, develop a high level of confidence and trust in others, and believed that others would eventually let her down. Maya’s impression of the importance of caregiving, combined with these factors, provided the founda- tion for her role. CLINICAL PRACTICE WITH DEMENTIA CAREGIVER BEREAVEMENT Establishing Clinical Goals for Interventions Addressing ambiguous losses in clinical settings can prove challenging. The losses are often unnamed, and the demands of years of caregiving have less- ened emotional reserves and the ability to handle new emotional challenges. Understanding demen- tia caregiver grief as normative and nonpathologi- cal despite its difference from concrete loss grief is crucial. As Blandin and Pepin (2017) illustrated, building resilience through the stages of the DGM entails understanding the importance of addressing earlier caregiving ambiguity in grief integration. Using a DGM lens involves helping people rec- ognize ambiguity and learn to accept its inevitabil- ity. Knowledge is power, and by providing both 4 Health & Social Work D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 caregivers and clinicians with a framework through which to understand the underlying process of loss, ambiguity, and reemergence that is inherent in dementia caregiving means empowering both groups. Ideally, utilizing this lens means increasing understanding and awareness of an emotional experience that can seem nonsensical and unpredict- able. Even if losses are not labeled as being ambigu- ous, efforts to identify, tolerate, and normalize unspoken thoughts can be helpful (Boss, 2010). For example, many caregivers report feeling relief on the death of a person with dementia, even though they often have devoted many years to caring for this per- son and their well-being. There is both a desire for them to live and a desire for them to die (Hovland, 2018) so that they no longer suffer. A new aspect of the person’s personality often may emerge from the degenerating brain. Parts of the caregiver’s sense of self may remain or emerge through the process, whereas once familiar parts may recede. There is an- ger and rage at the multiple losses, and there is often love and connection with the vulnerability of care- taking. Caregivers must learn new ways of attaching to the parts of self and other that are still present, grieve the parts that are gone, and realize that life can continue in a new way (Boss, 2010; Rolland, 2017; van Wijngaarden et al., 2018). Helping people realize that life can continue in a new way involves tapping into the universality of grief integration and the knowledge that “most grieving people manage well with coping skills, support and time” (Supiano et al., 2017, p. 156). Coping skills and support need to be specific to the needs of dementia caregivers, both present and for- mer. An appreciation for the resiliency of dementia caregivers is essential so that interventions are de- livered with the knowledge that “the majority of bereaved dementia caregivers do realize a positive and adaptive grief process, and return to prior lev- els of function and socialization” (Supiano et al., 2017, p. 156). Most caregivers report significantly fewer depressive symptoms one year after death than during caregiving (Schulz et al., 2003). Much as caregivers’ emotional responses to bereavement are linked to their experiences as caregivers (Anes- hensel, Botticello, & Yamamoto-Mitani, 2004), interventions should be connected to these experi- ences as well. Scholars have referenced eight possible clinical goals appropriate for practice when dementia care- givers experience distress or blocking of grief energy during the bereavement process: developing new rituals, supporting normative affirmation, encourag- ing social support, learning to tolerate ambiguity, learning about the grief trajectory, understanding grief in a family context, instilling hope, and discov- ering meaning and dignity (Aneshensel et al., 2004; Arruda & Paun, 2017; Boss, 2010; Cutillo-Schmit- ter, 1996; Dupuis, 2002; Hovland, 2018; Rolland, 2017; Supiano et al., 2017; van Wijngaarden et al., 2018; Waldrop, 2007). These goals, along with the intervention of a bereavement support group, mir- ror the needs of typical, concrete grief integration but are adapted to the unique experiences of demen- tia caregivers consistent with the framework of the DGM. Developing New Rituals All cultures have rituals around death, and societies have long recognized the need to direct the energy of grief in an adaptive way. Because ambiguous losses are unnamed and often unacknowledged, the development of new rituals can be helpful for grief integration (Boss, 2010; Rolland, 2017). Providing a normative process in a unique situa- tion supports the natural resiliency of the mourner. For example, part of Maya’s routine when she left work each Friday evening was to go see her mother and prepare her for the weekend. This act was one of love and care, and now there was nowhere to send her unspent love. After her mother’s death, she found it difficult to not engage in this activity and felt distressed on Fridays as the evening approached. As a bereaved caregiver, Maya was encouraged to develop a new ritual that acknowledged both this love and her mother. Rather than focus on her mother’s environment and on activities to pro- mote well-being and relaxation in the context of dementia, Maya began focusing on her own in the context of grief and her need for comfort and con- nection. She lit a scented candle that had a positive sensory memory for her, set aside a particularly soft blanket that made her feel cozy, and had a weekly movie night with girlfriends on her couch. Although these activities were not particularly new to her sepa- rately, she understood them together in the frame of directingloving energy toward herself as she had done for her mother and her mother had done for her. NATHANSON AND ROGERS / When Ambiguous Loss Becomes Ambiguous Grief 5 D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 Supporting Normative Affirmation Social rituals help individuals understand the uni- versality of grief; in that moment of separation, a connection to a larger human experience is help- ful. Normative affirmation can entail providing supportive reinforcement of an experience as being expected, reasonable, and similar to the experience of peers. This is regularly used in most grief work. People experiencing ambiguous losses benefit from the same universality but often are unable to find it in their daily lives. In viewing this through the lens of the DGM, it can be understood that these norma- tive affirmations might be of particular importance when the caregiver is within a liminal state, which requires tolerating ambiguity. Interventions should support the idea that it is normal to have difficulty integrating ambiguous losses. In doing so, clinicians can assist caregivers move toward a point of reemer- gence. This was Maya’s experience when she felt palpable relief after looking around the room and realizing that no one else knew how to grieve “correctly” either. In this way, normative affirma- tion supports grief integration, particularly when using the lens of the DGM (Boss, 2010; Cutillo- Schmitter, 1996; Dupuis, 2002; Rolland, 2017). Encouraging Social Support Much like normative affirmation, the need for so- cial support is an extension of a need for connec- tion following a separation. Most humans are naturally proximity seeking under distress, and interventions encouraging adaptive social support can be highly beneficial. Because the losses of care- giving are often unnamed, finding one’s peers and connecting around similar experiences require in- tention. Just by being in the bereavement group, the members found their peers and created their own social connections around shared experien- ces. Literature supports the idea that social support is essential in dementia caregiver grief and not only in concrete grief integration (Aneshensel et al., 2004; Arruda & Paun, 2017; Boss, 2010; Cutillo- Schmitter, 1996; Dupuis, 2002; Rolland, 2017; van Wijngaarden et al., 2018). Learning to Tolerate Ambiguity Learning to tolerate the ambiguity itself is a sepa- rate process (Boss, 2010; Cutillo-Schmitter, 1996; Rolland, 2017) from understanding the nature of ambiguous loss. Under stress, people often revert to a less adaptive method of coping in which the world, people, or a situation can be understood as all good or all bad, or feelings are singular rather than multidimensional. Feelings of anxiety can arise when both the emotional state and the losses are am- biguous (Hovland, 2018). Maya learned to tolerate ambiguity in her realization that, like those of her peers, her siblings were not all “bad” for being less involved, and her grief was not “wrong” because it was not all-encompassing. She realized that when her mother was alive, she had to focus so heavily on her mother’s physical care that it made sense that some of the less clearly defined psychological losses of connection and relationship were not consciously processed. Helping caregivers to tolerate ambiguity and hold the paradox of the person with dementia being both absent and present is another useful clini- cal goal (Boss, 2010). Learning about the Grief Trajectory Although significant literature supports the need for psychoeducation in grief, generally greater need emerges when the grief is ambiguous or related to dementia caregiving because the trajectories can be unexpected (Dupuis, 2002; Rolland, 2017). The more Maya learned about grief and cleared up her own misperceptions, the more she saw herself as be- ing part of a larger, more typical human process. This realization alleviated a great deal of her distress. Some former caregivers experience feelings of relief on the death of the person with dementia, whereas others experience a delayed grief reaction (Waldrop, 2007), so helping caregivers understand what to ex- pect is crucial in helping them cope. Understanding Grief in a Family Context Throughout the experience of dementia caregiv- ing, family roles often shift, and resentments and feelings about perceived contributions and emo- tions of other family members commonly arise. These shifts and complications continue into the bereavement period; helping caregivers under- stand the different ways in which people grieve and experience the integration of ambiguous losses can aid in coping with family tensions (Dupuis, 2002; Rolland, 2017). It was meaningful for Maya to be heavily involved in her mother’s care and diffi- cult for her to understand why her siblings did not make the same choice. Similarly, she struggled with not knowing how to connect to her siblings in their grief because they did not seem to want to talk and share stories about their mother as much as she did. 6 Health & Social Work D ow nloaded from https://academ ic.oup.com /hsw /advance-article/doi/10.1093/hsw /hlaa026/5979906 by W estern U niversity user on 20 D ecem ber 2020 She used her own lens to try to understand her sib- lings, and they fell short of her expectations. The more she learned from the group about the impact of a family context on grief and different grieving styles, the better she understood how her siblings might grieve differently, too. Instilling Hope In the context of a terminal illness like dementia for which there is no cure or even reasonable expec- tation of stability, caregivers’ experience of hope may be difficult to achieve. In bereavement, the in- stillation of hope is related to both the uniqueness of the grief situation for which there is often limited social support available and the varying trajectories of the grief itself. Instilling hope involves a mirroring intervention so that the person feels “seen” and also the communication that distress can be lessened so that the person can cope and know that, like other bereaved dementia caregivers, they, too, will be OK (Cutillo-Schmitter, 1996). Discovering Meaning and Dignity Particularly for those caregivers like Maya who have internalized a sense of self-esteem and identity in the caregiving process, loss of role can mean the loss of personal meaning and dignity. Bereaved caregivers often need to discover other ways to at- tain meaning and dignity following an intense pe- riod of caregiving as they navigate their own shifted identities and relationships (Boss, 2010; van Wijngaarden et al., 2018). This process can be both painful and empowering. Maya chose to re- spond to this shift by continuing her identity as a caregiver in a new way by becoming professionally involved with older adults and those with demen- tia. Using Bereavement Groups as a Clinical Intervention Although these goals may be implemented in a va- riety of settings, bereavement groups specific to dementia caregivers provide a unique opportunity to incorporate most or all of them. Groups func- tion to “facilitate a normal grief process that leads to integrated grief” (Supiano et al., 2017, p. 157). People see their own experiences reflected in the experiences of others, see their own experiences named and normalized, and develop an adaptive meaning reconstruction of their experience. Social ties that help the caregiver to feel cared for are also important because such support may differentiate people who improve over time from those who continue to be distressed (Aneshensel et al., 2004). Maya’s experience in the bereavement group involved several of these clinical goals. Coming to the group itself became a ritual of love and care for her becauseshe saw it as a way to appropriately honor her mother by “grieving correctly.” In pur- suing the group, she also engaged in meaning mak- ing, redefining the sense of purpose and dignity stemming from her caregiving. In seeing her own experience reflected in other group members, Maya received normative affirmation, social sup- port, and greater understanding of the grief trajec- tory. Maya’s relief was palpable the first day that others in the group reported the same experiences that she did. In the group process, she became hopeful that she would be “OK” and whole again like others with whom she identified, and she also became hopeful that she could use this growth to help others like her. CONCLUSION No one emerges from the experience of dementia caregiving exactly as they were before. Whether their experiences were straightforward or compli- cated, and whether their relationships were peace- ful or conflicted, caregivers must go through the transformative process of adapting to a new reality and often a shifted identity after caregiving. In working with this transitioning population, clini- cians would benefit from an improved understand- ing of the unique nature of dementia caregiver bereavement. When ambiguous losses become am- biguous grief, utilizing specific clinical goals can bet- ter assist bereaved caregivers in adapting during a complex process. 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