Leading You Me & We 29 Rob Scott On Coaching

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Session 29
Rob Scott Talks About 
Coaching
• Coaching is about creating behavior change.
• Visions vs. Goals:
1. Create a big vision for say 5 years out, then set specific goals between here and 
there that will lead you to your ultimate vision.
• 3 forms of accountability: 1) group accountability, 2) accountability to one other 
person, 3) self-accountability
1. To develop the skill of accountability, it helps to learn to say no to things (some call 
this having "healthy boundaries")
• On Self Worth:
1. If someone flaked on you for dinner several nights in a row, you probably 
wouldn't like that person. In a similar way, we may let ourselves down by not 
doing what we say we would, and this effects our self worth.
• Telling yourself you're never going to do something again is dangerous, because the 
next time you do it, not only have you done the bad thing, but now you've broken 
your word to yourself.
1. Go upstream and stop being so extreme with yourself. Stop making huge promises 
to yourself that are hard to keep.
2. Decide what's important and what's not, otherwise you'll drive yourself nuts 
trying to keep your own word.
• Coaching can help performance simply by having someone to talk to about the topic, 
and knowing that "someone's watching" you.
1. If no one's coming over to your place, you may stay in your pajamas all day and 
let the dirty dishes pile up. But if guests are coming over, you'll clean up the place, 
etc., simply because "someone's watching" you.
• Find an appropriate level of detail to hold people accountable to.
• Some powerful questions to ask:
1. Asking "Why do you want this? Why is this important to you?" is really important 
because you're digging to find the motives and deeper beliefs of the person. 
Bringing awareness to these motives and beliefs can be powerful.
2. How many times a week could you commit to doing this? (It doesn't matter how 
many it is, as long as they COMMIT to it).
3. What's the impact of your behavior right now? What's would be the impact of 
changing your behavior?
• There's the realization, but then there's also the daily plan to make the realization a 
reality.
• Creating a catchy mantra for the behavior change you want to create can help the 
change happen.
• Scheduling something consistently (i.e. every day, Mon. - Fri.) is easier than a less 
consistent schedule.