Leading You Me & We 06 The Trance Of Language

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Session 6
The Trance of Language
• Think of a part of your life where you've become discouraged.
1. Now let all the causes and obstacles go for a second, and just visualize the 
outcome you'd really like to have happen.
• In Think & Grow Rich, many of the most successful people had their greatest success 
one step after their greatest failure.
1. Even failures are moving you closer to your goal.
2. Leaders take this mindset with everything, over and over.
• One way to think about transformation and going to the next level is to replace the 
set of vocabulary you use with a new set.
• Language is the greatest trance there is. It's what we use to process experience in our 
heads.
• The "BEMind" = Body / Emotion / Mind = Your whole system working together as 
one process.
• The "Group BEMind" = one of the things that defines humans is that we exist in 
groups. Human minds are wired to sync to one another.
• Nominalization = an abstract noun.
1. In contrast, a noun is concrete if you can blow it up or down and then fit it in a 
wheel barrel. If you can't, it's abstract.
2. Nominalizations take ongoing activities and freezes them.
3. Free our mind from the "Bewitchment of Language."
• The mind tries to create fixed categories that stay the same and fit experience into 
them. It separates us from the ever changing nature of reality.
• One way to de-nominalize is to add "ing" to nominalizations.
1. "Emoting" "Minding" etc.
• When we nominalize, we lie to ourselves and eliminate possibilities.
• Tips for de-nominalizing yourself and your life
1. Instead of saying "the way it is" say "the way it appears to me right now..." or 
"from my current perspective..." or "the way it seems to me."
2. This reminds you you're almost always stating opinions and judgments, not rigid 
facts.
• Higher Self and Lower Self
1. When in our Higher Self, we're feeling positive emotions, optimism, safe, 
confidence.
2. When in our Lower Self, we're feeling negative emotions, pessimism, fear, 
insecurity, jealousy.
3. We make the best decisions when we're in our "Higher Selves."
4. As a leader, learn to discern when you're in your Higher or Lower Self, when you 
switch from one to the other, and only make important decisions, 
communications, and take action when you're in your Higher Self.
• If you want to have a bad relationship, communicate with your partner when either 
of you are in your Lower Self.